National Night Out

Pictures speak volumes. That is one reason why I enjoy taking pictures and opened a business- to preserve these precious moments that document not only the event, but the emotion.

We decked out Nishad's little bike in red, white and blue and headed to the park for National Night Out! This was the 3rd Annual National Night Out that our neighborhood has had. We have two great neighbors that continue to organize and coordinate the event. We're so lucky to have the neighbors we do. I designed the neighborhood flyer (good practice for my business and builds my portfolio!). A week earlier a bunch of us set out to paint the town in flyers- well, our subdivision at least!

There was an amazing turn-out this year. Hard to believe it started from being hosted in a garage with a hand full of neighbors. It was great to see people that we've not seen in a while and meet new neighbors.

NNO started with a kiddie parade. What a hoot! It was a hit! It ended with the park sprinkler system going off too! How's that for an ending? Then I ran the crawl, hop and run races. The babies were too cute! The sat there a bit confused and then suddenly one little one took off! Arun was happy hangin' out with Vada on the grass, until they both realized they were on grass. Then they were all about being picked up! Next up was the toddler "hopping" race. All hopped well. Nishad was practicing today- my little Honey-Bunny! His friend Jaxson was there too (Vada's brother). As a matter of fact, when we were walking up to the park we could here Jaxson yell "MOM! Nishad is coming!" That instantly put a familiar smile on Nishad's face. We just love Jaxson's spirit and enthusiasm! After I made the kids run around to a tree and them tossed candy in the air. It's raining C-A-N-D-Y! I have to say, they were ALL so polite and well-mannered. I heard so many thank yous! Great kids. Next came the water balloon toss, which was a hit too! It seemed to be more of a splash pad at the park though! Pop, pop, pop!! I think the kids enjoyed getting wet the best! Last, but not least by any means, was the ever so popular fire-truck and Sheriff visit! Nishad takes on a different persona when he thinks he becomes a "fireman." He even grins differently! He was so happy and excited to see real fireman and fire-trucks.

Nishad and I hung out and chatted with a few lady neighbors until 9PM at the park. It was a nice way to cap of a great event. This would be the perfect neighborhood and place to live and retire if it didn't get so cold! It's nice to have such good people live so close, that care.

Mr. Table Manners

Behold the fork, plate, chair, and table has made an appearance! It's time to transition and Nishad is excited to be a role model for his baby brother! I was surprised at how quickly Arun knew exactly what to do. He seemed so proud to be able to feed himself with a fork and to be sitting at a table designed with him and his brother in mind. Pancakes never looked so good!

Today was Arun's 9-month wellness visit. he got a shining bill of health. His stats: 25lbs and 29-inches long. He did his best to charm our pediatrician...She couldn't believe how calm he was while she examined him. He just silently analyzed her as if to say, "Are you looking at me? Or, am I looking at you?"

Love for Maria

"Never help a child with a task at which he feels he can succeed." ~ Maria Montessori










Nishad not only takes pride in not only clearing his plate after he eats, but now serving himself and on occassion, making Mommy and Daddy's plate too!

"Hello, Family! We are a family!" I love it when Nishad says that to us. There are so many moments in the day in which he says something, so beyond his years, that makes me pause, smile, giggle, kiss him and thank God that we are blessed with our boys.

Lately he 'thinks' he needs to parent his baby brother, which tends to get him in a bit of trouble. We're working on helping him understand that while he can help the baby, he doesn't have to parent the baby- That is what Mommy and Daddy are for.


We couldn't understand why he was not playing nicely with his brother. We would tell him, "Now how will you make your brother feel better?" He then goes over to Arun and hugs and kisses him and says, "It's okay baby. Don't cry." While I recognize that he's more advanced than most adults by doing this, it was a good reminder to me that I need to work continuously on grace, courtesy and manners with the boys. I'm pleased to say that last night, while I was making dinner, Nishad was 'entertaining' him brother. Arun was laughing so hard at Nishad, he was turning red and sounding off with sounds of joy! When he gets that happy, he seriously sounds like Donald Duck.


I have to say that I'm really pleased with the way he willingly shares his toys with others and how he interacts with other kids. He's not a loud or uncontrollable. He's especially good in public. I'm glad that he had the opportunity to live in a sheltered world, until pre-school, when it's the right time for him to start interacting daily with children and engaging in social activities.


We also feel confident because he's going to be attending a Montessori school in which he will thrive in! What child wouldn't? After working in both public and Montessori, we knew there was only one choice for our children's education.


We as parents will be a part of a new and exciting community that have similar goals as us; ranging from academic, nutritional, and life style. Nishad will play a role in a community that has respect for ones self, others, all living things and materials. I recall a directress I worked with, Suman. She had three classroom "rules" for the children. The three W's; Walk, Work and Whisper. I've tried to carry that on when I taught in classrooms. We live in such a loud society! Everyone is always yelling or speaking so loud that you can hear their conversation across the street from you.


Nishad will also be in a culturally diverse atmosphere. That was really an important factor for us. We wanted to him to attend a school that had represented the ever changing face our our country- our world. Of course, good things aren't cheap- it all comes with a cost.


Before applying at this school, I toured, observed and interviewed directors at 15 other Montessori schools. Having a bit of a background in Montessori helped. I preferred and AMI school over and AMS school. I personally worked in 2 AMS schools (which, by the way, were both highly respected and wonderful schools). I preferred an AMI as a parent as Maria Montessori started AMI. Another key factor was that the architecture of the school had to abide by the standards of AMI. Fellow seekers of Montessori beware- "Montessori" isn't trademarked. Therefore, there are a lot of schools that have the Montessori name on the school and they are not Montessorians.


Nishad's school has a gorgeous outdoor environment, much like the Montessori school in Shoreview where we enrolled in the parent-infant class. There are four children's houses in the school and one toddler community. There is a open area atrium where children can walk outside of their classroom and do yoga. Sign me up! :) Don't you feel so deprived as a child compared to all the wonderful academic opportunities children have today? I know I would have benefited as a Montessori child. Often, working in a Montessori classroom, I had the urge to let loose when the kids weren't in the classroom. haha. There are actually adult Montessori classrooms so you can experience it in a similar manner that a child does. I would love to attend one of those conferences.


As a parent, there are some great resources online in regard to Montessori. If you're ever up for a good read that directly impacts the most precious people in your life, I recommend these:

• The Joyful Child



• Montessori for Everyone



• AMI



• AMS



• Montessori Services

Clink here for a comparison chart of Montessori -vs- traditional.
"The greatest sign of success for a teacher is to be able to say, "The children are now working as if I did not exist." ~ Maria Montessori

Bubba-Lu

We have a new addition in our house! A white and gold, tail splashin' friend, in which Nishad named, "Bubba-lu!" When I asked Nishad if he would like to get a pet fish, he said, "Oh, yesss!" So I looked at him and said, "But the fish will need to eat. Who will feed him?" He quickly replied, "OH, I will Momma!" Then I said, "I imagine his tank of water will get dirty. Who will clean it?" He stood up, "Me! I will keep his home clean!"

That night we all ventured out in search of the perfect pet fish and fish tank. It was love at first bubble- Nishad needed no time to make up his mind. He pointed directly at the "fishy" he wanted to take home, care for and love. He had already named the fish by the time we got to the car. He held him proudly all the way home.

Welcome, Bubba-lu! We hope you are having a swimingly good time at our house in your new home!

Day Out WIth...

Thumbs down for the silly face train (as Thomas is known in our house) organizers for "Day Out with Thomas" in Lakeville, Minnesota's Tumbleweed Express. Last year the venue was in Stillwater's Minnesota Zephyr. Though we aren't Thomas fans, per-say, we did enjoy the event and all it offered in scenic Stillwater.

The people that organized this event seemed as though they were not prepared. After parking, you were to walk down a road, with no shoulder. Upon reaching the front gate, a lady looked at our tickets and told us to be across the street in 15-minutes for our train. We ambled around the games and activities, which were not of the same quality and 'professional' staff that the Stillwater experience consisted of. We walked over to get in line for our train, where we were to leave our stroller, in no particular order, along side the road. As people got off the train before us, they had to pull out strollers and search for their own, which meant all the people in line that had strollers were now displaced. As more people added to the line behind us, people were standing in the middle of the road! One of the organizers was yelling to people to stay out of the road...as he tried to direct cars around them and the people around a bend to the adjacent parking lot.

The train ride was nice, but by far, not as scenic as Stillwater. No one ever took our tickets either. It lasted a mere 25-minutes long. Just good enough for Nishad to have his fill. As we excited, the organizers had a "new system" in place for those boarding the train. They had lawn chairs wrapped with rope around them to form crowd control lines. In addition, they moved the location of where you can park your strollers. However, when I had to step into the line to get my stroller, a few people were very quick to tell me that they moved the parking spot for the strollers. Ok people, I know it's hot but all I want to do is pick-up my strollers as I alrady rode the choo-choo! One lady stepped on the rope to help me guide the stroller out. Then suddenly a pack of people exiting the train enveloped the people in line to make a path to their strollers. Apparently, we were one of the first people off the train. I told Ashish to start walking back to the car and I would take a few pictures of the front of the train. I was amazed at all the bickering people- in front of children! They didn't want to pay the photographer to take a picture with the child at the front of the train so they decided to stand on the railroad tracks to snap a shot. People were upset that people weren't 'taking turns'- Imagine! Perhaps they need to have the adults sit down and watch a Thomas DVD on manners! It also didn't help that the line to take a picture and the line to board the train were in the same spot.

Honestly, he wasn't that excited this time. Maybe because he just went on a 90-minute train ride in Duluth a few weeks ago? Perhaps he's had his fill of trains! I told Ashish today, by the time we move out of this state, we'll have been to every train depot around as we've been to the depots in Duluth, Still Water, Jackson Street Round House, Bemidji, and St Croix for the pumpkin patch train! Anyway, it was great to get out on this beautiful sunny and warm day as a family. At $17.00 per ticket, I think we'll chugga-lugga past this stop on the ride of commercialism. (Yes, by going I am fully aware we are part of the problem. ha,ha.)

We stopped over at IKEA and had lunch and bought a table for the kids. We had a cheap chair and table for them, but we wanted to upgrade. We picked out the table ($34.99) and chairs ($19.99 each) from the Kritter collection. A little spendy, but we wanted something that was stable and would last longer. It's bright and very cute! It's in our kitchen now and I can't wait to have breakfast with the kids at 'their' table!

Sprinkler Buddies

Let the sprinkling, splashing and lesson in hydraulics begin! The Beans' paid us a visit today in the morning- We enjoy visiting with the Bean's. The boys play so nicely with one another. I think Nishad gets a kick out of Jaxson!

Baby Vada and Baby Arun even muddled around in the wet grass- Vada really wanted to go into the sprinkler! Arun just woke up from nap, so he was still adjusting to the daylight. (ha,ha)

Daddy was working from home today, so Nishad and I had a special lunch date. We went to Space Aliens. Where else can you "fill up your inner space" so close to home?" It's kinda of like a Chuckie Cheese...which I've always viewed as a large alien anyway! The loaded baked potato was pretty good and Nishad enjoyed his pizza. Nishad played games and won a bunch of dinosaurs and a snake. After we went shopping and I let him pick out an outfit, on his very own. He 'had' to have the basketball shirt. When I asked him why he wanted it he replied, "I can wear it when I play basketball." Sounds reasonable to me! After we came home and it was time for nap, and time for Arun to wake up from his nap.

Color with Andrea

There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.- Anais Nin

These flowers were given to me by my beautiful friend, Andrea. Andrea is always so thoughtful and generous. She picked them out for me at the Saint Paul Farmer's Market. It's my my list of "to-do's" before summer escapes us.

I've made it a point not to purchase cut flowers for my table this summer, because I have planted so many outside. Honestly though, I miss them. My bare kitchen table needed a color splash to awaken the senses again. These flowers DID awaken the sense too- very fragrant!

Andrea read my mind- not surprisingly- and I'm thankful for it! It's hard to move to a new state and make a trusted, solid friend...a friend who has seen you at your worst and best, yet loves you all the same. We're kindred spirits... I'm so glad our friendship is blooming!

Seafood Arun

C-e-l-e-b-r-a-t-e 9-months, C'Mon! Arun has developed a passion for Cucs- he can't get enough of them! Eyes squinted, mouth open, apparently, the taste evokes his pirate-like alter-ego, "Argh, Who Wants My Cuc, Eh? Touch it and you'll walk me plank!"

Seriously though, it seems like if Arun sees food- he wants it! Hence, "Seafood Arun." So, of course, we had to celebrate with some sort of seafood!

Ashish, Nishad and I did our own kind of celebrating- King Crab legs on the grill. Dab those babies with a little EOO, salt and pepper- It's snappy! (har-har!)

Last year for our Anniversary, I ordered live Maine lobsters delivered to our door. What an experience! Delicious! We've come to really enjoy seafood at our house. I highly recommend the family owned company we ordered from. I think next time we order, we'll get a platter of sorts. Yes, it was that good! Hmn....Can we say year old celebration with a little "snap, snap?"

The Art of Birth Order

Here is Arun, a day before he turns 9-months old. Yes, that is a cone with a 'baby' scoop of chocolate ice cream in his hand that he is happily devouring. Our eldest, Nishad, now 2 1/2, never even got so much as a puppy-lick of ice cream until he was almost 2 years old. The first cake Nishad tasted was on his first birthday. Arun had a little taste of Daddy's 10-year Anniversary cake last Saturday. And juice for Nishad? Eek! Never! We started letting Nishad have juice on occasion recently as well.

Beyond food, there are more 'interesting' occurrences. Nishad was simply expected to hold his own bottle- and he did so by the time he was 8 months old. Arun has no interest to hold his own bottle! Nishad started drinking from a cup (not a sippy-cup, but the real thing) and holding his own spoon and 'feeding' himself at 9 1/2 months. Though we have a few weeks to attempt that transition, I have a feeling that Arun simply put, as no interest. Nishad said "Mama" by 4 1/2 months and "Dadda" by 6 months (and addressed us correctly). Arun still only says, "Dadda" and a few Hindi words. Though lately he clucks little a chicken and flaps his arms up and down. I think I spent way too much time showing him the birds at the zoo. Nishad was rolling over at 3 mos., sitting up by 4 1/2 months, crawling by 5 and walking (a stable walker!) at 8-months. Arun, well, he crawls and cruises and though I know that he will be walking before long...it is interesting to make these mental notes of milestones.

I had it ALL wrong. I thought the "BABY" of the family was showered with attention...as I was. I'm finding that the first born is really where it's at! Undivided attention...Two parents for one baby! Arun has already missed out on baby swim class, baby gymnastics and infant-parent Montessori class- all things Nishad did from the time he was 4 months old.

The process of being pregnant was amazing and inspiring to me- and I find that rearing our boys is no different. It's amazing how we can share DNA and yet be so different with our personalities, abilities, likes and dislikes. I personally think I got the better deal of my other siblings! (ha.ha) I feel I got the best of both my parents! Now, my siblings view on that may differ- but hey, blame it on DNA.

My sister Deborah is 12 years older than me and from my mother's first marriage, which was annulled. My brother John is 10 years older than me. One reason why I wanted to have our kids with a 2 -3 year age difference is because I grew-up having siblings that were all out of the house, married and had a family of their own by the time I was ready to interact and enjoy their company. Growing up seemed as though I was more like an only child, instead of the youngest. We took a lot of family trips with just me and often my parents would let me invite a good friend to take with so I would have someone to play with.

Often my brother and sister would whine, "We never got to do what she is doing!" Or, "The sun always shines above Beverly- She never does anything wrong." I'm starting to piece the puzzle pieces together of birth order and why they may have felt so jolted.

My parents never physically hit me in order to discipline me either. Instead, they talked things out with me and we "discussed" my choices. Sometime, I just wanted them to spank me and get it over with! I know this wasn't true with my brother and sister though. My parents spanked them all the time. I recall my nose against the door, with my eyeball glued to the keyhole crying and begging my Dad to stop spanking my brother and sister over something they did.

I honestly think seeing that put the fear of God into me and that was enough to keep me on the straight and narrow as a kid and teenager. I also think that witnessing first hand the upset that my siblings caused my parents made me never want to upset them and hurt them. My parents were big on learning from their experiences, but maybe, just maybe they shared a little too much with me- or maybe I was a little too young to hear what they shared.

My parents told me that my siblings had every opportunity that I did, but they choose not to pursue anything. I was the one taking dance lessons, involved in theatre, art classes, competitions, etc. I felt like their prized possession. As all children should...but my parents definitely doted on me more than my other siblings. I'm not sure why...or if it was because I was they baby and they had me when they were older. Older in their eyes at least. My Mom had me at 31 years old. The same age I was when I gave birth to Nishad. In today's terms, 31 isn't old to have a child at all.

Instead of my siblings having issues with me and taking out their aggression on me, in specific, my sister- they should have confronted my parents about it... not me. I was just a child. I hope and pray that Nishad and Arun never feel like one is favored over the other. As a rule, we "are a peaceful house." This being that the world is already so tough out there. Home is a refuge. If you can't feel safe, secure and extraordinarily confident at home, where else and how can you feel safe, secure and confident? I hope they grow into people that they both respect and enjoy sharing in ones company. Observing the love they already share, I am confident that they will be not only 'good' brothers, but 'great' buddies.

Veggie Patrol

Behold, my first veggies! After a busy week, I admit, I haven't had much time to portray my 'farmer' role. However, I was back at it again today.

To my surprise, a cucumber and two peppers were ready for harvesting! These veggies look as veggies should look- different and beautiful in their own unique way. No pesticides, "steroids" or wax...just organic goodness.

Our season seems to be about a month behind. Maybe I'll be harvesting cucs in October. Oh, that's more like it! At least I hope we don't get cheated out of a longer Fall because of the delayed season of Spring. Eh, I don't even want to think about the Fall yet...

One thing that continuously freaks me out is the idea of genetic engineering of organisims (our food). Ever go into a grocery store and observe that all the produce is the exact same? There's something about that which we would prefer to avoid. Nishad has been eating and drinking organic since he started solids (Arun will follow). Milk is a lot more expensive ($6-$7 a gallon). I pretend we live on Hawaii when we buy it. :) Our boys are really the motivation behind our garden. I want to know what they are consuming. Growing stuff in our very own backyard makes us feel as though we have a bit more control. I have yet to read "Stolen Harvest" by Vandana Shiva, but it is on my list of hopeful reads.

Here's a great summer salad recipe that has become our favorite! We use our herbs straight from our garden. It's a great side dish with fish. Pictured above is a tandori salmon I made with the rice salad.

Herbed Rice and Spicy Black Bean Salad

1 tablespoon chopped fresh basil
1 tablespoon chopped fresh thyme
1 tablespoon chopped fresh parsley
1 tablespoon chopped fresh cilantro
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon ground black pepper
1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper
1/4 teaspoon garlic powder
2 cups cold, cooked white rice
1 (14 ounce) can black beans, rinsed and drained
2 celery stalks, finely chopped
1 (4 ounce) can chopped black olives
3 green onions, chopped
1/4 cup red wine vinegar
1/4 cup extra-virgin olive oil

DIRECTIONS
Make a seasoning by mixing together the basil, thyme, parsley, cilantro, salt, pepper, cayenne pepper, and garlic powder in a bowl.
Gently mix together the rice, black beans, celery, olives, and green onions in a large bowl. Season the rice mixture with 1 teaspoon of the seasoning.
Make a dressing by whisking the vinegar and olive oil with the seasoning; allow to rest for 10 minutes. Pour the dressing over the rice mixture; stir to combine.

All good things...

Auntie Kelly has her countdown of when she leaves the Big Apple and we have our own countdown of sorts- We'll be counting down the days until Auntie Kelly's next visit.

My friend Kelly (affectionately known to our boys as Auntie) and I have known one another since our Freshman year in high school. There are those family you inherit from DNA or marry into and those that God sends your way...Kelly is a part of our 'chosen' family. Kelly has always been a consistent and caring force in mine, and my boys lives. She has been through every trying period in my life and every milestone. She has shared in my joys, lifted my spirit in the difficult times and always...always reminded me of the gifts God has blessed me with. She doesn't allow me to be hard on myself in her presence...Instead, she adds a boost of self confidence with her words as effortlessly as adding cream in my coffee. How does she do it?

She is a woman of many talents and according to Nishad, she's now added a few to that list. He *loves* playing with his Auntie Kelly. She showered him with such attention while visiting. She read to him endlessly (one of Nishad's favorite past times is books). They played puppets. He even preferred to sit next to her when we ate out, and let her help him in the bathroom. He had this little spider finger action movement when he wanted her to hold his hand. When Kelly went to the bathroom at the zoo, he asked, "Where is Auntie Kelly?" I replied, "The bathroom." He replied, "Will she be back?" I said, "Yes, Nishad." And, even with her out of site, as though he was sending her some sort of sub-conscious signal, he reached out his hand in the direction that she walked away and sent out a little spider finger message her way.

While pregnant with Nishad, Kelly actually drove back to Minnesota with me after my baby shower to help me prepare for the baby. She took time off in her life, to give time to us... After Nishad was born, she and her Mom (Gammy Dee) were first to say they were visiting. Does Nishad sense how special she is to us, or does he sense how much she cares for us? Maybe neither- maybe he just senses what a good person she is, and what a big heart she has.

I know that I have such an added respect for Kelly- especially, after this visit. There is another layer of love that was added in my heart... There is something so amazing about watching one of your dearest and closest friends play with your children, value what their innocent perspective is and love them so concretely. Ashish and I don't have many people in our lives that are in our children's lives. I suppose that's why it is quality over quantity.

As it was time to get ready for nap, I told Nishad to go to his room. We moved out his twin bed in his brother's room and put a queen size bed in his room for Kelly to sleep on. He sat up on the bed and looked at me and said, "Where's Kelly going to sleep?" He was really proud to share his African Savannah room with her. I said, "Kelly had to go to her home now..."

10 Year Anniversary

Red, White and Blue...I am for you! Honest, you're a grand old flag! ...Land that I love, stand beside her...with a light from above!

Ashish will be in this country for 10 years on August 11th. We invited people over for a garden gathering that we consider family and special friends to reflect upon his journey, accomplishments and blessings.

Ten years ago, my sweetheart came to this country with one suitcase and $500 (then, just enough for a one way ticket back to India). Amazing to me, considering I need to have cash in store for crossing a state line- "just in case." I can't imagine moving to an entirely different country and culture...I think Ashish is brave, spirited and adventurous. Above all else, I think he knew I was here and that I was at a point that I really was ready and open to the possibility for his steady presence and unconditional love in my life. :)

Despite the fact that my love and I grew up on opposite sides of the ocean, we were able to find one another. As there are still some Indians that have 'arranged marriages'... Our marriage was arranged too. However, parents and relatives had nothing to do with it... it was all arranged by God.

The D's (our Minnesota family), the Beans', Kold's, Kane's, Clausen's and a few of Ashish's co-workers that he considers friends all turned out to celebrate with our own "Festival of Taste-Nations!" Auntie Kelly and I cooked up palak paneer curry, aloo-gobi curry and tandoori chicken. We ordered samosas and Indian treats along with a big cake vanilla cake filled with chocolate. There was jumbalia, Swedish meatballs, Mexican, Chinese noodles, different rices, potato dishes, and even a chocolate peanut butter rice crispy desert. Food, glorious food.

It was so great to be surrounded by those we care about. It meant so much that they shared in this special day. Many thanks to all that shared this festival meal with us, and special thanks to Auntie Kelly for helping me prepare food, clean, be crafty and entertain the boys!

Ashish doesn't like to be the center of the lime-light...but I have to admit, he's my star! His story is an inspirational one. He single handily came to this country, not knowing anyone- not owning anything. He had to work for everything he earned in life- nothing was handed to him. Just as he worked hard to stay here- the right way, the honest way...a way that makes me very proud.

As I celebrate his 10 year anniversary, I can only thank God for guiding him here safely- with a light from a above.